When it comes to choosing a life partner, we consider a number of factors. It all centres on attraction, both physical, emotional and sexual. We may find a person attractive based on certain behavioural traits they possess. This is is where the problem of being attracted to people that have similar traits and looks like your ex comes in.
There is nothing wrong in going for someone similar to your ex however in choosing a life partner, you must be a bit practical and objective. That is if you want a good one.
What you need to know also is that your attraction to your partner is sometimes influenced by your circle of friends and relatives or your taste in the opposite of same-sex.
Women also tend to go in for men that possess qualities similar to their fathers.
Now back to answering the million-dollar question. Why do women date men that look like their ex?
The answer is simple. Because they are attracted to a specific quality or trait they look for in their choice of a partner. Take a look at Taylor Swift and all of her exes if you are in doubts.
In dating, people do have their types. In 2019 a study conducted at the University of Toronto revealed that no matter how bad your relationship with your ex was, you are highly likely to date someone that looks like him or her.
Also when we get into a new relationship, we tend to adapt to strategies that help us cope with our partner’s personality in order to keep the relationship a happy one. People also tend to stick to a particular “type” because it is easy to transfer those strategies as compared to relearning from scratch with a new partner.
In every relationship, people learn strategies for working with their partner’s personality. If your new partner’s personality resembles your ex-partner’s personality, transferring the skills you learned might be an effective way to start a new relationship on a good footing.”Yobeen Park
Even if your wish to date outside your type, there is a higher chance that you won’t succeed because biologically, our minds are wired mysteriously. The brain works better with patterns. From what we eat to what we wear and even who we date. It will take a series of bad relationships with your type of man or woman to finally break that pattern of dating a specific type of man.
Another reason why a person may be choosing partners that look like their ex is that they are not over them yet. This is most common amongst women because of the need to prove to their exes that they have moved on and probably found someone better than they are.
Sometimes we don’t notice the similarities, but it is an unhealthy way of finding a life partner.
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